how to recognize – and free yourself – from coping mode
I was in a conversation recently with some other coaches that really struck home. We were talking about one of our biggest challenges – leaders who take transformational advice and try to make it fit into their current situation. Or, as one coach put it so well:
“The challenge is how to bring something into a world that doesn’t have space for it and which automatically co-opts it into the prevailing mindset, which perpetuates the problem.”
This got me thinking: How can we help leaders see the “flip in consciousness” that is needed to get to the next level?
Leadership development has long been about fixing problems, utilizing strengths, and amplifying personal resources that improve one’s ability to successfully implement change and drive toward goals. Doing things better, faster, and with less resistance is the goal. So we help patch here and fix something there and see signs of improvement that lead us to believe the current paradigm is still working, but it’s often not the case. If we look deeply, what we often find is a leader in coping mode – someone who’s barely hanging on and has maxed out their ability to make refinements that deliver. Not only that, but a study at the Kings College of Psychiatry in London showed that when people multitasked, their effective IQ dropped 10 points! These are the same leaders who think their performance is not affected at all.
The “Aha” Moment
Have you ever had a stroke of brilliance, where you suddenly realize the answer you’ve been puzzling over in one immediate flash? Then you’ve already experienced a flip in consciousness. It is immediate and goes from this to that. It is a quantum leap without steps or process, which are both inwardly profound and outwardly physical. As Ginny Whitelaw states in The Zen Leader, “Not only will you find YOUR energy transformed by these flips, but the tools of leadership are transformed as well: how you set vision and strategy, create the future, develop and inspire others, and optimize had choices.”
The very first “flip” that The Zen Leader walks you through takes you from coping to transforming. Coping mode immobilizes us. It keeps us stuck in the present situation. “Accepting ‘it is what it is,’ the Zen Leader in us flips from defensiveness to curiosity, from resistance to creative engagement. What can we learn from it? How do we fix the damage, change the game, or leverage larger forces at work,” asks The Zen Leader. In this mindset, we allow the flip to happen.
Look at things upside down
In art, when we are starting an experimental painting, it is important to put it on an easel and turn it in 90 degree rotations to look at it from every angle. Quite often, we choose to finish it from a very different angle than the one we started with. Why? Because we are pleasantly surprised by how things look when turned sideways or upside down. It can become more dramatic and less expected. The focal point can change. Shapes take on an entirely different look. This is what the flip from coping to transforming allows you to do. It changes your perspective, widens your field of view and gives you more alternatives to consider in your leadership.
The Zen Leader walks you through 10 flips in consciousness to help you become a better leader, but this first one is the foundation for all the rest. If you’d like to read this first chapter, From Coping to Transforming, a free download is available here.
Enjoy your journey!
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Published on Jan 22 2013
Last Updated on Sep 18 2020